This Story Will Send You Thinking, Every One Who Heard it Agrees

It was just a simple story but it really sent me thinking about how I could own my life. I have to make decisions that affect my life. I will tell you this story that challenges you to the core. First however, let me tell you how I got the story. I made a call on my way from the office expecting to meet a former colleague who had come to Lagos on a business visit. Will you eat kenkey? I knew he would want to eat kenkey because he has been away from Ghana for a while. Kenkey is a Ghanaia delicacy. I reached Daniel’s lodge at about 7:30pm local time. We were seated on the second floor. We had a good chat and then he gave me a CD to watch. As a colleague of Daniel in one of the top shot banks in Ghana, I knew that Daniel had a strong work ethic. If he gave me a CD, then it is for a reason.

I inserted the CD into my laptop and then I began to watch the movie that would leave an indelible imprint on my mind. Only a few movies have a lasting effect on me. It was not my favourite kind of adventure movie. It was cartoons (I am not a fan of cartoons) and these animations really sent my mind wide. I don’t remember the title of this video. I think FFG owes the story. The story follows this line. Two friends from High School, Welty and Kamen, met after a long time. They decided to catch up on past times. During their conversation, they told each other what they were presently doing. Kamen worked in the corporate world and earned a huge salary. To get more pay, he needed to work harder and for long hours. He did this to provide for the comfort of. He hardly had time for his children. His wife only wished he could spend a little more time with her and the family. He desperately needed to spend time with his family but his work would not let him.

After Welty heard about Kamen’s life, he was moved because unlike Kamen, Welty seemed to have the time to do whatever he wanted to do and he also had the money to do it. He spent time with his lovely son, played golf, visited recreational centres, watched football at the stadium, etc. Welty decided to help his friend. He knew that, if Kamen had to take charge and own his life, he had to understand the principles that he, Welty had used to obtain wealth and at the same time have the time to pursue his leasure. He told Kamen about a boatman who became wealthy without trading his time for money. I will tell you that story Welty told Kamen in the next post.You will see the mistakes that you probably are making that is costing you the opportunity to own your life and place your dreams within your reach.


Eyram Hlortsi

Own Your Life – Part 3, Take Charge

Here is an important quote to help you own your life.

Even when evil comes to you, understand that you deserve and require them and that by first enduring them, you may be stronger, wiser, nobler.

When you have fully entered into this realization, you will be in a position to mold your own circumstances, to transmute all evil into good and to weave, with a master hand, the fabric of your destiny”.  James Allen

quote to own your life

I hope you read the preceding posts title Own Your Life Part One and Part Two.

If you did, then you are waiting for this piece. At 21, Brian worked a construction job.

According to him, he was broke and lived in a small one room apartment.

One evening, as he sat, he had a “great flash of awareness.”

He gained an insight into life and his situation that would turn everything around in his life.

This was his thought, “no one else was ever going to help me. No one was coming to the rescue.”

This thought, injected a dose of courage into Brian.

He decided from that moment to take charge of his life.

He realized from that one moment that, everything that would happen to him for the rest of his life depended on him.

The Brian mentioned is the one you know – BRIAN TRACY!!!

The decision to determine your circumstances really requires great courage.

The courage to Own Your Life.

Understand that, you are in your current state because of the decisions you took or did not take.

The failure to decide is the decision to do nothing, AOL 38.

The failure to take decisions can also ruin everything you are building.

Decide to take full responsibility of everything that happens in your life.

When the decision to own your life is firm, many frivolities will naturally be eliminated from your life.

You will not give excuses for non-performance. You will not tell lies under pressure.

You will not need to justify an action you have taken.

Anytime someone is responsible for your failure or success, you cannot make remarkable achievement.

Your background is not responsible for where you are now.

The poverty of your parents and their inability to give good education cannot be blamed.

Your handicap is no excuse. Let me reiterate this! You are responsible for your current state.

If you do not accept the responsibility, you cannot move ahead.

You will always find someone/something to blame for your lack and failures.

If something good can happen, why not to you? Why not now? Decide now.

Take responsibility for your situation. If you do not like it, take charge, take steps and change it.

Dream your future, visualize it and step into it.

This is only possible when you know that you know that you are responsible for your state, happiness, wealth, productivity and success.

Name it, claim it and take it!

Do you agree that you are ultimately responsible for your success or failure? Do you own your life? If you want to take charge of your financial future I recommend you visit my side hustle breakthrough blog here.

Let’s continue the discussion in the comments area.

Own Your Life – What it means to Own Your Life

What does it Mean to Own Your Life

To understand what it means to own your life, analyse by yourself, this statement Don Faila makes.  “When you subtract out the sleeping time, commuting time, working time and the things you have to do each day of your life, most people don’t have more than two or three hours a day to do what they would like to do: and then, would they have the money to do it?”

Depending on which angle you want to tackle this, you will have varying responses. But the underlying factor is that you are in control of the vehicle that is moving in the direction of your destiny. This means that, you can choose to be happy, sad, loving, hating, etc all at will at any particular moment. For example, IF YOU HEARD A BAD NEWS AND WERE CRYING, YOU COULD DECIDE TO BE HAPPY AND SWITCH MOODS IMMEDIATELY. Now, this is extreme but that is what it means to own your life. It means that you have the ability to control, no not to control but to DETERMINE your emotion.

If you can determine your emotions which you can, why then would you choose to allow a negative painful emotion in your life?

The next thing it means to own your life is that you can choose where you want to live, what you want to eat and what clothes you would wear without looking at the price tag.

Own your life, means you can buy anything without considering the price tag
I sell for $5,000,000.00

This is what it means NOT to own your life. When you can tell a lie under pressure, or give explanations to justify what you have done for fear of punishment or for a gain of reward.

Now consider this! Can you be said to presently own your life? If you cannot wake up at the time you want to, work at your goals according to your schedule in order to achieve them, and even decide how your day goes, think again about the control you have on your life.

To what extent does your money have power over you? You can determine that you are in charge of your own life depending on your response if you lost every dime have made. Or if you experienced what some people will call a mishap. Would you accept that it is part of life, then you wake up and start all over or you will sit there languishing in pain?

Can you go where you want to go, or acquire what you want to or do what you like to, and would you have the money to do it?

The extent to which money or circumstances influences your life is a great indicator of the extent to which you are in control of your destiny.

No matter where you stand, you can own your life by the decision (s) you take now – The decision to change your situation.

I will share in the next post, the stories of people who changed their situations by taking the decision to own their lives. I will also share with you, how you can do same.

In the meantime, leave me your comments. To you, what does it mean to own your life?

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Own Your life – Part One

A Slave/Master of Your Thought

Over the years, I have struggled until I came to the realization that to enjoy a fulfilled life, you need to take charge and Own your life. Prior to this realisation, I had dreams and aspired great heights. Each time, I was not able to achieve my goals, I would think, “was I any different from all the others?” I know I was not because according to my performance in class and at my place of employment (I worked with a multinational bank at the time), I was one of an above average performers. Many of my colleagues looked up to me but I was grossly dissatisfied and did not attain my goals. Some people seemed to enjoy the attention of almost everyone around. This made me moody because, I thought, for fairness sake everyone needs to enjoy the same level of attention. That thinking was a big fallacy! I needed a slice of the cake of friendship these folks were enjoying. This was not happening and I got more troubled and moody. I actually thought that people did not like me. The more I thought, the more I coiled into my shell. I could not control my circumstances and how I felt. I did not own my life. It was not nice being lonely. Even my close friends now seemed distant. I plunged deeper into my moody self. To keep myself company, I buried myself into books. One day, something drastic happened. The light hit me. Then everything began to change. I was more happy, I started enjoying friendships and Today, I have a very different view of life.

Own Your Life by your choice to take action
It depends on you

When you do not own your life or control how you feel, you are almost a slave of your thoughts, wondering what other people are thinking or who did or did not do what. Let me tell you a true story. I know a man. Let me keep his identity by calling him Kofi.

Kofi Baths Up to Ten Times A Day!!!

Kofi wanted attention from his father and mentor above his brothers. But growing up, Kofi’s mother told him that, he needed to bath well because he had a strong body odour. Kofi took that lightly in the beginning. Later in life, Kofi noticed that his father was closer to his other brothers than himself. His desire however was to be his father’s attention. His father who is allergic to bad smell often told stories of how body odour could cost you important relationships, promotion at work or valuable things in life. After all, people only give goodies to those they liked. Life they say is not fair. You can be a great producer, an intelligent person or a genius and and still miss out on the goodies of life. Now, Kofi would bath anytime he was going to see his father. He would use lime because that was the best odour suppressant he knew. He would make sure that anytime he was going to meet his father, he had taken his bath. But it seemed his father did not notice any of these and when he noticed it, did not even get Kofi closer. Kofi was really down. If Kofi was with his father and his father had to scratch his nose due to discomfort Kofi would think that, he was producing bad odour. Sometimes real, other times imagined. Somehow, his feelings affected his confidence and his mood. This affected his relationship with other people. He would interpret his lack of social acceptance as a result of the bad odour he produced. He plunged into a perpertual state of unhappiness. Guess What? Kofi would

"Take charge", "own your life"
Having a good time!!!

bath about seven to ten times in a day in order to get around. He had become a slave and victim of his own imagination because of his desire to please others. Back to the light that hit me. I got a basic understanding of what it means to Own Your Life. This changed my perception and has put everyone of my dreams within my reach. I set huge goals now and I feel so much in control of the goals. In our next post, I will continue of what it means to OWN YOUR LIFE. But see, you can master your situations. You can CHOOSE to be happy!!! You can attain all your goals. It is within reach!!! Take Massive Action To Take CHARGE NOW!!! I will be very grateful if you can share your own experiences situations that made you feel enslaved by your thoughts. What are you going to do differently to Own Your Life and take charge of your destiny. Let me hear from you.   Eyram Hlortsi Business Builder/Entrepreneur Trainer