A Slave/Master of Your Thought
Over the years, I have struggled until I came to the realization that to enjoy a fulfilled life, you need to take charge and Own your life. Prior to this realisation, I had dreams and aspired great heights. Each time, I was not able to achieve my goals, I would think, “was I any different from all the others?” I know I was not because according to my performance in class and at my place of employment (I worked with a multinational bank at the time), I was one of an above average performers. Many of my colleagues looked up to me but I was grossly dissatisfied and did not attain my goals. Some people seemed to enjoy the attention of almost everyone around. This made me moody because, I thought, for fairness sake everyone needs to enjoy the same level of attention. That thinking was a big fallacy! I needed a slice of the cake of friendship these folks were enjoying. This was not happening and I got more troubled and moody. I actually thought that people did not like me. The more I thought, the more I coiled into my shell. I could not control my circumstances and how I felt. I did not own my life. It was not nice being lonely. Even my close friends now seemed distant. I plunged deeper into my moody self. To keep myself company, I buried myself into books. One day, something drastic happened. The light hit me. Then everything began to change. I was more happy, I started enjoying friendships and Today, I have a very different view of life.
When you do not own your life or control how you feel, you are almost a slave of your thoughts, wondering what other people are thinking or who did or did not do what. Let me tell you a true story. I know a man. Let me keep his identity by calling him Kofi.
Kofi Baths Up to Ten Times A Day!!!
Kofi wanted attention from his father and mentor above his brothers. But growing up, Kofi’s mother told him that, he needed to bath well because he had a strong body odour. Kofi took that lightly in the beginning. Later in life, Kofi noticed that his father was closer to his other brothers than himself. His desire however was to be his father’s attention. His father who is allergic to bad smell often told stories of how body odour could cost you important relationships, promotion at work or valuable things in life. After all, people only give goodies to those they liked. Life they say is not fair. You can be a great producer, an intelligent person or a genius and and still miss out on the goodies of life. Now, Kofi would bath anytime he was going to see his father. He would use lime because that was the best odour suppressant he knew. He would make sure that anytime he was going to meet his father, he had taken his bath. But it seemed his father did not notice any of these and when he noticed it, did not even get Kofi closer. Kofi was really down. If Kofi was with his father and his father had to scratch his nose due to discomfort Kofi would think that, he was producing bad odour. Sometimes real, other times imagined. Somehow, his feelings affected his confidence and his mood. This affected his relationship with other people. He would interpret his lack of social acceptance as a result of the bad odour he produced. He plunged into a perpertual state of unhappiness. Guess What? Kofi would
bath about seven to ten times in a day in order to get around. He had become a slave and victim of his own imagination because of his desire to please others. Back to the light that hit me. I got a basic understanding of what it means to Own Your Life. This changed my perception and has put everyone of my dreams within my reach. I set huge goals now and I feel so much in control of the goals. In our next post, I will continue of what it means to OWN YOUR LIFE. But see, you can master your situations. You can CHOOSE to be happy!!! You can attain all your goals. It is within reach!!! Take Massive Action To Take CHARGE NOW!!! I will be very grateful if you can share your own experiences situations that made you feel enslaved by your thoughts. What are you going to do differently to Own Your Life and take charge of your destiny. Let me hear from you. Eyram Hlortsi Business Builder/Entrepreneur Trainer