Own Your Life – What it means to Own Your Life

What does it Mean to Own Your Life

To understand what it means to own your life, analyse by yourself, this statement Don Faila makes.  “When you subtract out the sleeping time, commuting time, working time and the things you have to do each day of your life, most people don’t have more than two or three hours a day to do what they would like to do: and then, would they have the money to do it?”

Depending on which angle you want to tackle this, you will have varying responses. But the underlying factor is that you are in control of the vehicle that is moving in the direction of your destiny. This means that, you can choose to be happy, sad, loving, hating, etc all at will at any particular moment. For example, IF YOU HEARD A BAD NEWS AND WERE CRYING, YOU COULD DECIDE TO BE HAPPY AND SWITCH MOODS IMMEDIATELY. Now, this is extreme but that is what it means to own your life. It means that you have the ability to control, no not to control but to DETERMINE your emotion.

If you can determine your emotions which you can, why then would you choose to allow a negative painful emotion in your life?

The next thing it means to own your life is that you can choose where you want to live, what you want to eat and what clothes you would wear without looking at the price tag.

Own your life, means you can buy anything without considering the price tag
I sell for $5,000,000.00

This is what it means NOT to own your life. When you can tell a lie under pressure, or give explanations to justify what you have done for fear of punishment or for a gain of reward.

Now consider this! Can you be said to presently own your life? If you cannot wake up at the time you want to, work at your goals according to your schedule in order to achieve them, and even decide how your day goes, think again about the control you have on your life.

To what extent does your money have power over you? You can determine that you are in charge of your own life depending on your response if you lost every dime have made. Or if you experienced what some people will call a mishap. Would you accept that it is part of life, then you wake up and start all over or you will sit there languishing in pain?

Can you go where you want to go, or acquire what you want to or do what you like to, and would you have the money to do it?

The extent to which money or circumstances influences your life is a great indicator of the extent to which you are in control of your destiny.

No matter where you stand, you can own your life by the decision (s) you take now – The decision to change your situation.

I will share in the next post, the stories of people who changed their situations by taking the decision to own their lives. I will also share with you, how you can do same.

In the meantime, leave me your comments. To you, what does it mean to own your life?

To your MLM Prosperity.



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Own Your life – Part One

A Slave/Master of Your Thought

Over the years, I have struggled until I came to the realization that to enjoy a fulfilled life, you need to take charge and Own your life. Prior to this realisation, I had dreams and aspired great heights. Each time, I was not able to achieve my goals, I would think, “was I any different from all the others?” I know I was not because according to my performance in class and at my place of employment (I worked with a multinational bank at the time), I was one of an above average performers. Many of my colleagues looked up to me but I was grossly dissatisfied and did not attain my goals. Some people seemed to enjoy the attention of almost everyone around. This made me moody because, I thought, for fairness sake everyone needs to enjoy the same level of attention. That thinking was a big fallacy! I needed a slice of the cake of friendship these folks were enjoying. This was not happening and I got more troubled and moody. I actually thought that people did not like me. The more I thought, the more I coiled into my shell. I could not control my circumstances and how I felt. I did not own my life. It was not nice being lonely. Even my close friends now seemed distant. I plunged deeper into my moody self. To keep myself company, I buried myself into books. One day, something drastic happened. The light hit me. Then everything began to change. I was more happy, I started enjoying friendships and Today, I have a very different view of life.

Own Your Life by your choice to take action
It depends on you

When you do not own your life or control how you feel, you are almost a slave of your thoughts, wondering what other people are thinking or who did or did not do what. Let me tell you a true story. I know a man. Let me keep his identity by calling him Kofi.

Kofi Baths Up to Ten Times A Day!!!

Kofi wanted attention from his father and mentor above his brothers. But growing up, Kofi’s mother told him that, he needed to bath well because he had a strong body odour. Kofi took that lightly in the beginning. Later in life, Kofi noticed that his father was closer to his other brothers than himself. His desire however was to be his father’s attention. His father who is allergic to bad smell often told stories of how body odour could cost you important relationships, promotion at work or valuable things in life. After all, people only give goodies to those they liked. Life they say is not fair. You can be a great producer, an intelligent person or a genius and and still miss out on the goodies of life. Now, Kofi would bath anytime he was going to see his father. He would use lime because that was the best odour suppressant he knew. He would make sure that anytime he was going to meet his father, he had taken his bath. But it seemed his father did not notice any of these and when he noticed it, did not even get Kofi closer. Kofi was really down. If Kofi was with his father and his father had to scratch his nose due to discomfort Kofi would think that, he was producing bad odour. Sometimes real, other times imagined. Somehow, his feelings affected his confidence and his mood. This affected his relationship with other people. He would interpret his lack of social acceptance as a result of the bad odour he produced. He plunged into a perpertual state of unhappiness. Guess What? Kofi would

"Take charge", "own your life"
Having a good time!!!

bath about seven to ten times in a day in order to get around. He had become a slave and victim of his own imagination because of his desire to please others. Back to the light that hit me. I got a basic understanding of what it means to Own Your Life. This changed my perception and has put everyone of my dreams within my reach. I set huge goals now and I feel so much in control of the goals. In our next post, I will continue of what it means to OWN YOUR LIFE. But see, you can master your situations. You can CHOOSE to be happy!!! You can attain all your goals. It is within reach!!! Take Massive Action To Take CHARGE NOW!!! I will be very grateful if you can share your own experiences situations that made you feel enslaved by your thoughts. What are you going to do differently to Own Your Life and take charge of your destiny. Let me hear from you.   Eyram Hlortsi Business Builder/Entrepreneur Trainer

New Year Resolutions I Made

Many people make resolutions for the New Year.  I am sure that you have made your resolutions as well. I trust that, before you made your resolution, you saw the popular post on goal setting by Dr. Bob Clarke

For several weeks, I was thinking about the successes I chalked in the year that is soon to fade and my expectations for the coming year. My Spiritual Father has declared this year as the year of  loyalty. I strongly recommend the book Loyalty and disloyalty as well as Know Your Men if you are interested in building a long and lasting Ministry/business or relationships.  This is the reason why I am determined too ensure that each resolution is achieved. At the close of this new year, we will count one after the other how good the Lord has been to us.

I got an Inspiration and classified my Resolutions

I was watching little angels tell the story of God’s love and then I caught the inspiration on the things that I needed to achieve this year. To avoid distortion, I classified my resolutions as is shown below.

Spiritual Resolution

  1. Hold monthly retreats to ensure that I am in tune with the plans of God in my life
  1. Train five quality shepherds from my AOFM  from the present crop of ordinary church members.
  1. Build a stable AOFM with 30 regular members attending church from my fellowship


My Business and Other’s

Economists are predicting a gloomy year. The Chinese economy is shrinking, India as well, there is great uncertainty about the US economy. (Thank God at least one hurdle was crossed. More taxes slapped on the money generating men, mmmm?). More job cuts will not be surprising. This is the reason why I am determined to show as many people how to build a business and earn incomes that are not dependent on the economy. There are failure proof ways to increase one’s incomes should the economy plunge into a recession. Ask Robert Kiyosaki of the Rich Dad fame


I am not a superman and I don’t intend to play the hero who is to save the world.

  • What I am determined to do is to help 10people build a US$10,000.00 monthly residual incomes. (These must qualify for my time though).
  • Help 500 network marketers build their business with ease without going through the needless pain of experiencing rejection, cold calling and getting lost online because they had no guidance. This is a serious situation one can fall into.


Resolutions Concerning the Family

  • When I spoke with my precious daddy about my desire to send him visiting some of the major cities in the world, he was very excited. The expression of joy over the phone concretized my desire to send him to any place of his choice this year. His trip will be completely sponsored and I will make sure daddy has a memorable vacation as he tours the world. This is particularly exciting for me because it is my first time of organising a vacation for my father. I am doing this to show appreciation for my father who sacrificed everything he could owe to give me a good life. Daddy, I LOVE YOU.
  • I will be tying the knot with my beautiful beloved in July. I have waited for too long. No more doodling. This is the planned year. I am reaching  the alter this year. Awwww… There is romance in the air.

Social Resolutions

  • Make five friends each day and make a positive contribution to each one’s life.
  • Put a smile on the faces of at least 3people each day.


Personal Resolutions

  • Loyalty to God, to the church (Lighthouse Chapel International) and to myself.
  • Commitment to self mastery/discipline.
  • Add value to anyone I spend 3minutes with.

How to Build a Huge Network Marketing Business

Network Marketing LegendI must be sincere, much of what I am about to share with you on, “how to build a huge network marketing organisation”, today is not my original idea. I learnt it from a number of network marketing legends.  I will not discount the fact however that, I have interspersed these great lessons with personal experiences with the valuable information and wealth of experience that was shared to me.

If you joined network marketing or a multi-level marketing company, chances are that you saw an opportunity that will ease if not totally wipe away your financial woes. True. There are countless stories of people whose situation received a complete overhauling because the joined the bandwagon of a network marketing company. From each success story however, one can always glean the valuable information that leverage was the key to success in multi-level marketing (mlm) or network marketing. For the ease of flow in this piece, I would use mlm, multi-level marketing and network marketing interchangeably.

When you sit in the presentation of a typical network marketing opportunity, the concept of building a huge organisation is so simplified that you can almost feel even your dog could attain success with that program. As a result, many people jump in without even understanding how success comes to the top shots in the network marketing world. After all, you just need to get two people, then they go out and get two people, then the situation repeats itself until you have an organisation of ten thousand distributors/reps.

Some people are lucky and the first two reps they sponsor build huge teams under them. They suddenly become six figure earners overnight. I am sure that you will not like to build your business based on luck. Look, these happy go lucky success chalkers are only a tiny fraction of the success stories of network marketing.

Before you get me wrong, let me come clear on this one. Network marketing is legitimate and holds the key for you to build a huge organisation that will eventually make you enjoy time and financial freedom. The caveat however is that you must learn to do it right.

Network Marketing professionals

It is no wonder that 93% of the people who venture into network marketing fail mainly because they have not taken the time to learn the rules of the game. They do not understand the business model. I was the same and failing miserably. Though I was failing, the success chalked by others told me that it was doable. Maybe there was a principle being applied. When I gave myself to learning the secrets of building a huge network marketing organisation, my overview of how to build my network marketing business changed. If you are willing to learn a few of the things I learnt, lets roll.

First and foremost, network marketing is a profession. You are the professional building your business. This basic understanding that you are building a business will do the trick for most people. Every business has working hours. Set your working hours and keep to it. It requires great self discipline to do this. This missing ingredient accounts for failure for most people.

If you are building a business, then there is the need to promote your business. Understand this. Network Marketing is a numbers game. You need to go through a network marketing is about large numberslarge sample of prospects before you get to recruit or sponsor people of quality into your organisation. It is these quality people you sponsor that will help you attain your goal of financial freedom.

Imagine how many people you can talk to in a day if you spent an average of 1hour presenting your opportunity  to people. Where is your personal brand?Clearly, you will have to give your business a promotional boost so that you can have many people to show your opportunity to at the same time. You have to advertise your business. If you do your advertising well, your business will get a major boost. Awwww… advertise does not necessarily mean that you need to spend money. But if you have to, what is wrong with that? Who should build your business for you? Are you not willing to take hold of the of  your business and direct it to where you expect it? You will need to develop a system that makes you reach as many people as possible. There are free methods and paid methods to do this. You can use social media such as facebook, twitter, linkedin etc, content marketing such as blogging, article, video marketing, etc. You can also use classified ads to generate tons of leads. The key here is that you have to know how to do this right so that you don’t get ghosted, as users of craigslist will term it. Get a coach to take you through which ever strategy you decide to master. You can add the rest later.

Anybody who gets into contact with you must identify that unique thing which sets you apart. It is called your personal brand. It is the same brand that you permeate in to your business. Now you need to have succeeded to build a credible brand and you need a credible brand to succeed. What a dilemma. Today however, even newbies can be branded just because of the brands they associate with. I chose to go all the way with MLSP. In a later post; I will share with you how to build your brand even though you are a complete newbie in this business


Yours in network marketing success



Stop Pitching Your Network Marketing Opportunity

Yes!! I just gave a straight blatant shoot at it. It sucks when you pitch people with your network marketing opportunity.

how to pitch your network marketing opportunity

No Network Marketing, No Mlm here
NO Network Marketing Here


I will tell you shortly. Before then, have you realised that friends and loved ones avoid it when you start talking about your opportunity to them and pestering them that they need to join you? Ask Mark Yarnell. His father did everything to stop him when he decided to give network marketing a shot of his life.

Let me tell you a story. It is a true story. I know a man who started a network marketing business. He failed in a couple and was neck deep about to drawn in his last opportunity. This man had read the book by Robert Kiyosaki titled “Business of the 21st Century”. He knew that this the industry that can turn his financial fortunes and make him a monthly seven figure earner and still give him the luxury of the time to spend enjoy with his family and loved ones. My friend told me that, it would take him between 20 to 30years if he had to make six figures a month in his current organisation.

When my friend joined his present opportunity, he was determined to succeed. He did all his upline to do. He followed his companies training rigorously. In less than a month, he had spoken to over two hundred people and signed up four people. His moral was boosted. Was he soon to become the next Randy Gage? His hopes were high and his energies multiplied. He shared his story. It was working. Or was it?

Soon, he realised that he had spoken to everybody he knew on earth about his network marketing opportunity (Just kidding), but that is how it felt. Many people did not care about his golden life-saving seven figure making opportunity. Sadly enough, he could not meet as many people to present his opportunity to. He took to advertising and realised that, people did not respond. Was he missing something?

People avoided him. This was to be expected because trainings from his company showed him how to deal with rejection. But why will people not reject you when you just go straight to them and pitch your business? Are you their personal financial advisor or entrepreneur consultant? I will show you a model called attraction marketing later.

As my friend had exhausted his warm market, he decided to venture into the cold market. Rejection was much more severe. He felt like giving up and calling it quits. I know my friend. He is not one who quits so easily. He would find a way to become the top producer in his company.

He advertised his company.

His results sucks!!!

The response was poor. He had however made a good move. But why were the results poor? Others advertised the same company too. People preferred to join the team of the presenters and those who ran the show. They wanted to be with the celebrities in my friend’s network marketing company.

My friend had to think outside the box. How do I become the one who people get attracted to?

Become a star. PERIOD!!. To win their hearts, my friend decided to become a star first. He decided to give people great value for free. This was value that he had paid several hundreds of dollars for. When people received the gifts he gave them, they knew/thought that he had more to give. Now, prospects were gravitating towards my friend like a magnet. People would ask him about his opportunity even if he did not speak about it. Everyone wanted to be in his team.

Why you should not pitch your network marketing opportunity

  1. It sucks. It simply is unprofessional. No one will really want to join you. The catch is that when you chase people around, they don’t want to come to you. Ask the guys. They somehow ran from ladies who are chasing/pestering them and they go for the ladies who are ignoring them. This is simply human nature. Pitching is like gravels in the mouth. Become a consultant or trusted advisor and see people coming to you.
  2. The next time you tell someone your company is the best and all the stuff you say to pitch your business, remember this phrase, who cares? They would have joined you if they cared. People feel that you don’t even care about them when you pitch them your opportunity and they reciprocate.
  3. When you give people value regardless of whether they join you or not, they see that you are selfless. As a result, they want to buy from you when you have not offered to sell anything. They simply want to pay you back for your generousity.
  4. When you pitch your opportunity, people see you as a sales person, and we all don’t like sales people, EVEN YOU. Give value and get die-hard fans who take your every advise

As a special gift, I am sharing with you a training that has changed the face of my business. It is called social media insanity. With this training, you will learn how to leverage facebook to build your own network marketing business.

Do you have questions or concerns? Do not hesitate to link up with me on facebook. I will meet you there.

Yours in MLM Success


Network Marketing Success – Some Fail, Some Excel, You…

In Every kind of business, some people are successful.

Other people fail.

In network marketing, the story is not very different.

The shocking statistics is that only 3% of network marketers become successful or attain their goals of earning a five or six figure residual monthly check.

network marketing success

Network marketing success has eluded 97% of people who engage in network marketing.

How can you attain success if you venture into network marketing?

Many networkers quit their present company before they are 5months into the business and then jump ship or fall out.

Usually, after listening to a presentation by a company, you a charged up and feel that this business is so easy.

This is it!!

You have just been given magic wand that will turn your fortunes around with little work.

You have just seen the best opportunity in the world.

You pulled out your credit card and enrolled as a distributor.

You were told that the product had no match.

  • The product sells itself.
  • The timing is just right.
  • This is the industry.

XXXX amount of YYYYY is consumed by the world each day.

What if you are the one to supply all these?

With your new found zeal, you pick up the phone and make as many calls as can be made.

You are only limited by the amount of money you have to recharge with talk time credits.

It feels is interesting.

You sign up four people in a few days (that is if you are lucky – many people are not that lucky though).

Three months into your business, looks like you have spoken to almost everyone you know.

What do you do now?

You feel that there must be gold somewhere in there.

You go over your list again until your friends and loved ones begin to avoid you – rejection.

Some enrol into your opportunity to encourage you or to prevent you from bugging them.

You soon realize that your business is not growing as you thought it would.

Your downlines are falling off – attrition.

People around you are tired of hearing you pitch your business.

What you envisaged as the springboard to your success is almost now bitter to your taste.

Some people at this stage begin to hate Network Marketing .

I hope this is not you.

The truth is network marketing still holds the key of turning the fortunes of the average man around.

That is, if you learn to do it right, you will obtain network marketing success.

The Network Marketing Success Secret

Now the big question is, Why do some people fail, while others succeed?

I have been chatting with a number of networkers and uncovered a simple truth.

When I shared what I found out with a network marketer, his jaw dropped and it all became clear to him why he was struggling.

The secret to sponsoring downlines and building a huge network marketing organisation is no secret in the first place. Now I am shooting…


They do not want to join your business but they want to join you.

So why are you not sponsoring them?

The answer is simple.

You have not positioned yourself well enough as the one who holds the solutions to their problem.

Have you ever seen a consultant or an expert in a particular field running around and chasing people to come for his solutions?

My friend Dr. Bob Clarke showed me how he positioned himself.

I barely stole it for $10.00 risk free.

You can also learn how to become a sponsoring magnet that attracts prospects and converts them into downlines. These are your action plans Prospects cannot leave you

  1. Add value to yourself
  2. Practice every valuable instruction you learn
  3. Give out great value for free. Giving good value for free is facebook’s multi-billion dollar secret.

For your freebie to be held in value, you need to have a recognisable brand.

How can I be of help to you? Let me know on facebook.

To your success in network marketing.

Eyram Hlortsi

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